Bad Attitude = Bad Life


Right now I’m sitting in a hospital waiting room, while my husband has a cardiac ultrasound. He’s been in the hospital since Saturday night, when I brought him in because of pain in the chest. Lord willing, he will have a clear bill of health and be able to come home tonight! For those of you who have been praying for us, THANK YOU!

Meanwhile, I write this in the ER waiting room, so if it reads a bit choppy, that’s why!

I’ve had a multitude of responses to my many pregnancies over the years. Of course, the larger my family got, the more stares and jaw-dropping my round figure elicited. Folks were surprised and some were shocked, but after meeting my children, almost all of them said, “I wish I had more.”

Except once.

I was going through the checkout one time when I was pregnant with my 6th child, and I (of course) had #1-5 with me in line. The cashier took in my family in one quick glance and said, “I wish I had never had any kids. I had 5 of ’em, and it was **** the whole time. I hate them!” It was my turn for my jaw to drop! I couldn’t believe it!

When I left the store, I couldn’t help but feel terrible for that woman. She could not have been happy when she was younger, and she sure wasn’t happy now. How awful her life must have been.

Since then, I’ve been through a few valleys (like hospital waiting rooms!) and on some mountaintops, and I’ve had my share of heartache, but deep down, I’ve always had joy.

Last month, we looked at how we can improve our marriages. If you missed any of the posts, you can find them here. And on Facebook there was a lot more discussion and some additional ideas.

But for the next month, I’d like to examine Joyful Motherhood, and see if we can find greater fulfillment in our lives as mothers.

To become a joyful mother, we first need to understand what the purpose of motherhood is.

As women, we have the unique opportunity to actually bring a new life into this world. Think of it! That God would use us to add another soul to this earth is incredible.

But being a woman, and more specifically, being a mother, is more than that. It is the dramatic opportunity to shape that soul and to make him useful to God and to others. The saying “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world” is still true today.

Every king, prince, or president has been taught and trained by a woman. Every athlete, writer, or doctor has been shown love and life by a woman. Every preacher, entrepreneur, or manager has been inspired by a woman. That woman is mother.

Our purpose as mothers is to train up children for the glory of God. Often we tend to have this backwards, and we want to have children for ourselves. When we have children for selfish reasons, there is no fulfillment, because we cannot find fulfillment in selfish pursuits.

As I walked away from the store with the unhappy cashier, I realized that she had had her children out of selfishness. Perhaps she just got pregnant accidentally, or maybe she wanted to have children to show off to others. Whatever her reason (or neglect of a reason,) she ended up hating her children, and ultimately, her life.

Being a mother has the potential to bring much joy…or much misery. It depends on our attitude.

Attitude check! Take a few minutes to write down three things that you love about being a mother! If you feel brave, share them with us here!

Linking up with: Monday:
Alabaster Jar,
The Better Mom,
Raising Arrows
What Joy is

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  1. Gabrielle says:

    Such a great post, and I know I’m definitely in need of an attitude check. Just this morning, I was really stressed with my kids. We’ve got three little bitties, ages 4, 2, and 8 months, and I’m spending a week out of town with family, which adds to the stress because I’m not at home where everything is kid friendly. Anyway, after much snapping and grouchiness from me, in response to two grouchy little ones, I realized my problem. I was treating my kids like interruptions to my day instead of the very purpose of my day. Perspective changes everything!

    Found your blog through Titus 2sday!

    • Lisa says:

      Gabrielle, I think you really pegged the main issue here: we often view our children as interruptions, rather than the very purpose for our day! Very wisely spoken, and I know The Lord will continue to bless you!

      Thank you!

    • Lisa says:

      Hey, we all need an Attitude Check every now and then…and when you have littles, I think we need it more often than we think!

      Thanks, Aimee!

  2. Lynn says:

    I am not a ‘new Mom’, rather a ‘new grandma’- but I find the basic ‘grateful’ principles remain the same. I have two grown daughters now starting families of their own, and even though things haven’t turned out as I would have thought or anticipated as far as which daughter got pregnant first, order in which they make choices in their lives, etc. etc………….it is still so obvious that when I shift my focus to being grateful for my time with my grandbabies and be really ‘present in each moment’ with them my joy is incredible.

    We’re all capable of changing what we focus on and we all need gentle reminders from time to time. We can ‘choose’ happy/grateful, or the opposite, it truly is all up to us.

    Thanks for the story and reminders.

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