Obstacles to an Excellent Marriage, Part 1

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Ernest Shackleton stood on the ice with the rest of his crew, watching his beloved ship as she was slowly crushed by the shifting ice.  The cracks and groans of the wooden ship, their home for the past fifteen months, were heart-rending.  Within minutes, the ship was crushed by the ice and disappeared, leaving the men standing on the coldest surface known to man in the middle of nowhere without any hope of rescue.  They would have to find their own way back, surmounting incredible obstacles – unspeakable cold, lack of food, and a myriad of dangers as they went.


Today we’re going to tackle Obstacles to an Excellent Marriage.  All of us come into marriage with obstacles, either of our own making, or obstacles that are put there by the Devil himself.  Let’s take a few minutes to clear out some of the obstacles in our lives that may be preventing us from having marriages that are all that the Lord wants them to be.


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1.     Selfishness – “He should be taking care of me!”  We often tend to think selfishly, wanting folks to cater to our wants and desires.  Taking that attitude into marriage is can be quite a large obstacle.
a.       Solution:  We need to be careful to examine our hearts and ask the Lord if there is selfishness rooted in our heart that He needs to remove.  “Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes”  Song of Solomon 2:15.
2.       Laziness – (an offshoot of selfishness)  “I just don’t feel like putting any effort into it.”
a.       Solution:  Realize that, without effort, your marriage will disintegrate.  “By much slothfulness the building decayeth; and through idleness of the hands the house droppeth through” Ecclesiastes 10:18.
3.       Fear – “I’m afraid I’m going to run out of _________” Fear is a very big and real foe.  We can fill in that blank with one, or several of any number of things.  We may think we will run out of love, or that we will not have enough energy.  “I won’t have anything left for myself!” we think.
a.       Solution:  “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love”  1 John 4:18
b.      Always remember the widow’s pot of oil which kept on going as she was pouring it.  Only when there was nothing left to do, did the oil stop.
c.       Remember that it is God who works through us, and He never runs dry!  “For we are labourers together with God:”  1 Corinthians 3:9

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Remember, anything worth achieving will always have obstacles in the way.  An excellent marriage is worth whatever it takes to have it.
Obstacles are meant to be overcome!  In your Courageous Journey, never let it be said that you saw an obstacle of self standing in the way and prized your ego more than the God-instituted blessing of marriage.
Yours for a Courageous Journey for God,

Sharon’s Senior Slideshow


After 12 years of home education, our daughter Sharon graduated…with honors, I might add!  As her parents, we are so proud of her example of godliness and diligence.


This short video that Lydia made (excellent job, Lydia!!) using Sharon’s favorite song brings back so many memories, and it’s hard to believe how fast time flies.  Honestly, it seems as though it’s only been three to four minutes since she came into our life!  And yet, I don’t know what it would be like without Sharon.  She is such a bright spot in our lives, and we truly thank God for her.


Designing blogs is something she really enjoys doing, and is very good at.  She did an excellent job designing my blog here, and her sister’s blog, A Heart-Ful Home.  Check it out, and if you want Sharon to give your blog a facelift, let her know:

contact.sharonjoy {at }gmail {dot} com


Congratulations, Sharon!  We love you!